Saturday, January 30, 2010

चिंता , भय , निराशा - हताशा से मुक्ति

Demolish Your Worries :
Pin Point The warning thought.
Look for the evidence.
Put yourself in some one else shoes.
Cost benefit analysis.
Think in shades of gray.
Watch out for distorted thinking.
Explore the worst possible outcome.
Box in your worries.
Keep perspective.
Visualize yourself in 10 years from now.
Turn worry in to action.
Distract yourself.

Ways to cope with crisis :
Be rational (logical), Scientific – remember that useless or harmful ideas (thought) are normal & nothing worse will happen, only wait & watch.
Only now matters, don’t think about what might happen.
Except the feelings & not pay much attention for thoughts.
Take slow deep breaths. Concentrating on breathing out.
Talk to some body , tell a close friend what you are feeling.
Concentrate as the feelings gradually subside, you think negative feelings will always subside because they have transient period of disturbing people.

Control Your Fears :
Understand your fear. Where did it come from , did you have a bad experience. Were you expose to people who taught this fear to you.
What are you afraid off. Write down five things that you think will happen if you face your fear.
Fear & anxiety can be managed by relaxation.
Face your phobia, if you will not face it will not go.
Rank your fears & be happy with your less fear.

Overcome to your depression :
Set yourself on simple tasks.
Keep a dairy of your activities & give value to positive things & ignore negative thoughts.
Challenge negative thoughts.
Talk to other people confide in close friends & member of your family.
Take some exercises.
Examine your goals.

Mahesh Khandelwal, Vrindaban – 281121,
Mobile : 09837022973, E mail : ;


Time :

Imagine there is a bank that credits your account each morning with Rs.86400. It carries over no balance from day to day, every evening it deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day.

Each of us has such a bank. Its name is time.

Every morning it’s credits you with 86400 seconds.
Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest.
It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft.
Each day it open a new account for you.
If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours.
There is no going back.
There is not the “Tomorrow”.
You must live in the present on today’s deposits.

Invest it so as to get from it the ut most in health, happiness & success.
The clock is running, make the most of today.

To realize the value of one year, ask a student who failed a grade.
To realize the value of one month, ask a mother who gave birth prematurely.
To realize the value of one week, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of one hour, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of one minute, ask a person who missed the train.
To realize the value of one second, ask the person who just avoided an accident.
To realize the value of one Millisecond , ask the person who won a silver medal in the Olympics.

Treasure every moment that you have !
And remember that time waits no one.

Yesterday is history.
Tomorrow is mystery.
Today is gift.

That’s why it’s called the present !!

सकारात्मक नजरिया

The Truth About Positive Thinking
A lot of people are very skeptical about positive thinking because they have tried it in the past and did not see any real improvement in their lives.

Those who dismiss positive thinking are in fact right about one thing – Positive thinking alone will NOT change your life.
The truth is that there are no magical genies waiting to make your dreams come true just because you maintain a positive attitude.
This does not however mean that positive thinking is a waste of time. On the contrary, positive thinking is the first step of a powerful process that can and will change your life if you choose to apply it.
Here is the truth about positive thinking…

Positive thinking is only effective when it inspires you to take positive action towards achieving your goals.
Over time, repeated positive action becomes a positive habit and it is these habits that will bring you the positive results you desire.
The main reason people become disillusioned with positive thinking is because they mistakenly expect positive thoughts to lead directly to positive results. When things don’t improve, they then dismiss the concept of positive thinking entirely. This is a big mistake.
Once, you understand that positive thinking is the first step of a powerful four step process, you will discover that the true benefit of positive thinking is that it gives you the impetus to take action.
This Week’s Action Steps:
1. Visualise your goals each day and fill your mind with a positive image of the outcomes you want to achieve.
2. Use these positive thoughts as a springboard to take action.
3. Understand that repeated action becomes a habit.
4. Establish the habits that will lead you to achieve your most important life goals.

Success, Positively

You may often hear about the power of positive thinking, and in a very negative way think to yourself: “what a load of crap!” I can relate to this way of thinking – I spent many years being cynical all the time. It did me no good to be that way, and I eventually realized that I was setting myself up for disasters time and time again.
Now, I’m not going to sit here and tell you that you can change the world by being positive all the time. I also won’t tell you that you can avoid negative things happening in your life, just by being positive. What I am going to tell you is this: a positive attitude and mentality, success, and positive outcomes all go hand in hand with each other. In other words, if you believe you can achieve something, and you maintain a positive attitude even when times get tough, you will prevail. If you give up, of course, you will fail. Basically; what the mind thinks is what the mind will attain and / or make happen. So, if the mind thinks that failure is immanent, it sure is! Your thoughts are shaping your life, whether you want them to or not.
A great example of this is in a competition where you have two or more athletes all up for one prize or goal. Alan, Mark, and Joey (real scenario, made up names) are all competing at the same level, and are of very comparable skills and physical attributes.
Alan feels ready to take on the competition even though he knows he is up against tough competitors, and he is confident that he will win – it shows in his actions, even on his face. Mark feels pretty confident but he’s still not 100 per cent sure of himself, and Joey, though he knows he is an amazing athlete, does not feel up to par to be competing with Alan and Mark.
Joey has a negative attitude toward the outcome of this competition, before it has even begun. Just like the way the positive energy showed on Alan’s face, Joey’s negative attitude is shining strong too. Unfortunately for him, the judges of this particular competition are looking for the athlete who is most confident in what they do, even if they do it with slightly less gusto than those against them.
Alan, of course, won this competition, though even he agreed that he was not the better athlete of the three. It was his opinion that Joey was likely to be the best in this competition, but he was determined to win, and maintained his positivity through to the end.
A cheesy example, maybe, but if you take anything from this, than I don’t mind being a bit of a cheeseball. If I can sway just one negative natty to try positive thinking I have done my job here. Just remember that positive thinking and attitude don’t just come over night. It takes a lot of practice to go from being negative all the time to being positive. It gets easier once you see results, so just be positive – positive thinking will prove its power to you to!


Before you think of saying an unkind word
Think of someone who can't speak

Before you complain about the taste of your food
Think of someone who has nothing to eat

Before you complain about your husband or wife
Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion

Today before you complain about life
Think of someone who went too early to heaven

Before you complain about your children
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren

Before you argue about your dirty house; someone didn't clean or sweep
Think of the people who are living in the streets

Before whining about the distance you drive
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet

And when you are tired and complain about your job
Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down

Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around Life is a gift Live it... Enjoy it... Celebrate it... And fulfill it।

"Laughter is a powerful way to tap positive emotions”


Good Morning! One day I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life।I went to the woods to have one last talk with God।"God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer surprised me... "Look around", He said॥ "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?" "Yes", I replied. When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said. "In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. "I would not quit॥" He said. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant... But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." He said to me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots." "I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you. "Don't compare yourself to others .." He said. " The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern ... Yet, they both make the forest beautiful." Your time will come, "God said to me. " You will rise high! "How high should I rise?" I asked. How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return. "As high as it can? " I questioned. " Yes. " He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can. " I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you. He will never give up on you. Never regret a day in your life. Good days give you happiness Bad days give you experiences; Both are essential to life. A happy and meaningful life requires our continuous input and creativity. It does not happen by chance. It happens because of our choices and actions. And each day we are given new opportunities to choose and act and,in doing so, we create our own unique journey." Keep going... Happiness keeps you Sweet, Trials keep you Strong, Sorrows keep you Human, Failures keep you humble , Success keeps You Glowing, but Only God keepsYou Going!

"Laughter is a powerful way to tap positive emotions”

प्रसन्न भारत

Utilize every moment for PLEASURE and PURPOSE of Life.
मंत्र :  जीवन के हर एक पल का प्रसन्नता और उद्देश्य के लिए उपयोग करें .
With your devoted participation in this game. Every Bhartiya will be a Pleasant Person & The India will become PLEASANT BHARAT
Playing Method
Work pleasantly every moment with a smile & full perfaction.
After completion of every small work, celebrate its success.
Perform next work / action little bit improved.
Meet every body pleasantly, smile &  little laugh.
Laugh fully and enjoy peace of mind.
Practice this in every situation of your life.Inspire at least one person every day to join this game & motivate him daily, by using missed call as reminder for pleasure.
Extend this chain to involve every citizen of Bharat.

On 31st August 10 we will cover entire country, pursue this fully.

Everybody require a pleasant LIFE.
This gives everybody a pleasure & purpose of life.This will Creats a better environment for working &  living.
This will remove all psychosomatic problems & country will be free from most of health problems. The pleasant and disease free persons become more energetic, productive, social & even PATRIOT.
This is 101%, Possible,
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For any suggestions , guidance , clarifications, support etc. Contact : Mahesh, Vrindaban : 09837022973 ,
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